LOVE


love-two-red-glossy-heartsWell what can I say that hasn’t already been said…LOTS! Love can be a battlefield…but then that’s not really love…innit…it’s hate. There’s only one love; divine love. Notice how it follows you around. But we know that. We have known that since time immemorial. Yet we fail at love at such a rate, one wonders, have we learnt anything. Love is so intrinsic to health that to divide it as two separate entities would be folly. We are at our healthiest when we are deeply in love. Divine love is sex, is health, is love. Once you have tapped into that, the rest of your life is just a matter of routine. That statement seems to elude those most intelligent. Too simple. Surely, love has to be a complexity of standards to abide by. Perhaps to some, love is taking out the garbage. Love is buying birthday presents and on time…or being financially independent. The opposite would be true; arguing and pridefully ignoring your loved one for periods too much to bare. We make love to mean many things and rightly so, it is. It touches all aspects of our lives. But to make it mean everything external doesn’t get to what love truly is. To me, true love is the love you have for yourself. Giving yourself the time to reflect on your inner landscape and surround yourself with an aura of light, just like a little baby’s. The smell of a little bub is divinely beautiful. Now, regarding the “New Ager”…and I’ve met plenty of those. “Tree hugger’s” or “Hippeees”. There are a lot of trolls that hang these types by the neck as soon as they mention the word Lurv. I myself…am not into anything. Religion, Science, New Age, Spirituality and Snobby Intelligence…I mean whatever. I don’t want to fight these types. So, which ever side of the proverbial fence they’re defending, let them. Phew…got tha’ outa th’ way.flirting oneThe subject of flirting is a contentious one. We have justifications coming out of our ring piece as to ‘why we can flirt’. But….Is flirting acceptable? Can flirting exist within a loving relationship? If you are in a relationship and find it necessary to flirt, how will that impact on the partner? Do you pull out that word “Jealous” to justify your flirtatiousness or is flirtatiousness ok, as long as you don’t stick it in right. Can we do pretty much anything as long as it doesn’t involve penile insertion. Good grief! What encompasses flirting then? What is acceptable flirting (if any) and what isn’t. Should we accept flirting as a norm in society or is there a more sinister connotation attached to it. Why do we feel the need to flirt? Is it not enough that we have our partner? Or when we get a wink from another person, do we respond or ignore it? Is having blind trust in our partner enough to cement the relationship or is trust something we have to earn? Does trust start with ourselves? Keeping your word. Saying what you mean and meaning it. People mistrust themselves let alone trusting others. Very few people you can honestly say you trust with your life. So what is the answer? The answer to life’s questions is get rid of the questions. Love yourself first before trying to love others. Selfish? NO! That way you both bring 100%. Usually we go in empty. Then use each other to fill that void…when they can’t fill that void (because it’s impossible)…you dump em! Good one. Next! pineal-glandIs having the need to be flirty, some unweilding insecurity that resides in our psyche? Is it a way of gathering more acceptance than your relationship can offer? Do we need the approval and acceptance of others to self gratify our ego or sexual desires? Is flirting our way of being loved secretly? Remembering, we aren’t with our partners 24/7, therefore anyone and everyone can potentially supply us with approval and gratification regularly. Does this show up our emptiness or is it a benign and harmless activity we do for fun? There are many, many different people that we meet…we can’t expect to put the blinkers on and avoid being loved from afar. Some people are oversexed and have a burning desire that never gets satisfied. One partner doesn’t seem to cut the mustard, so the other one flirts. But within a relationship, darn hard to keep flirting a secret. If you’re getting say 100% love from your girlfriend and one day that feels like 90%. Well, where is that 10% going? Perhaps that you are in the bad books for some objectionable misdemeanor you have committed against her, or could it be that your girlfriend is simply giving it away by flirting. I don’t mind flirtatious women, but usually, if not always, the dude gets a gut feeling that his girlfriends attention has been diverted. I mean…it only takes a second to fall for someone else. Middle Eastern culture prohibits women from being seen fully, just to secure and maintain a marriage. Now I appreciate that this might be a bit radical…but it works. The feminists say it’s oppressing women and there’s truth in that…but by what standard do we judge different cultures by…Westernised Standards? No. There has to be a middle ground whereby Western Standards meets other standards. This requires effort, change and adaptation culturally from all sides.

smoking_couple_pop_art_style_love_couple_pop_art_couple_cg1p02547037cWe react to each person we come in contact with in some form. To flirt or not to flirt! Choices. If it’s a problem to your partner, do we continue this practice or do we stop? If we stop, do we feel resentful because it is a deep part of us that needs continual nourishment? Our needs aren’t met. Do we change our partners needs in continuing this avenue of self fulfillment? No matter how much you argue this line, it will always end up in hurt, loss and trauma. No one likes to see our partners show love to another, no matter who is doing the flirting. I flirt. I love to flirt. It’s not a need per se. It’s something I do when I meet a woman that flirts with me and finds me sexually attractive. I respond. But, if I am in a relationship, I make it known that my heart is with my partner. I like to do it in front of her. And, I always make it known to her that I love her. I never make her feel like my heart just went south.13407484-yin-yangPerhaps the only way through this is looking at the bigger picture. Karma will show you. Like night follows day, you can advise as much as you like with a lot, some, little or no results, but karma has a way of forcing you to experience “WHAT YOU DISHED OUT”. What you sow so shall you reap. If you think flirting is fine, wait, one day you will find out the answer. It’s not about morals or ethics. You will feel the same as your partner felt. You will feel all of those insecurities and all those hurts. You may feel fine with your partner flirting. If you do, then there are no lessons to be learnt. Move on. You can’t love another person. Impossible. You can’t pull love out of your pocket like coins and hand it to them. But with sex you can satisfy. We all feel the beauty of sex, always.

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Putting inside your “bag of life” those principles that work for you in relating lovingly to family, friends and lovers, seems like a good idea. I have seen folk go from relationship to relationship and not “get it”, repeating the same mistakes, over and over. To me, love takes precedence over everything. Love over flirting. The sheer cost of lost love doesn’t justify flirting to me. Heart attacks. Loss. Despondency and depression. Health. The domino effect that impacts to those on the periphery is no justification to flirt. Some will say “Fuck you!”…”I will flirt if I want to and it’s you that has to have faith and trust that, showing my private parts and exchanging sweet nothings occasionally is ok…I get satisfied and you get to keep me happy and the relationship intact”. Oh…….ok…….I guess?. Is there something wrong here…or am I missing something vital. Is it a woman’s prerogative and poetic license to fuck up anyone along the way, just cos she said so. Just because “flirtatiousness” is etched into her DNA? Fuck NO! Nothing to do with DNA. But you catch my drift.

This is the problem with love. What I call Hollywood love, some call real love. The statement: “I fall in love” surely holds a clue to the condition we put ourselves in…namely…you place someone else above yourself. Hence, the “falling”. Merina_VibeIf that person whom you place above you were to leave….then love has gone. My fine point is this. If you are…well…full of yourself…meaning feeling divine. Then a breakup wouldn’t impact on you as much. If at all. You would be left with a feeling of Love, Beauty and Wonderment. A feeling of mmmm…..!You can’t see love, only feel it…the people around you can sense your love…that’s it. So when your girlfriend is near you and you’re full of your own love…she feels loved. Words don’t cut it. Unless, those words are coloured with love. Above is a Kirlian process that looks at magnetic fields discharging in water…quite beautiful.

1.Kirlian photography (ˈkɜːlɪən) n

  • (General Physics) a process that is said to record directly on photographic film the field radiation of electricity emitted by an object to which an electric charge has been applied[C20: named after Semyan D. and Valentina K. Kirlian, Armenian researchers who described the process]

2. Kirilian photog′raphy (ˈkɪər li ən) n.

  • a photographic process that purportedly records electrical discharges naturally emanating from living objects in the form of an auralike glow. [1970–75; after Semyon Dutch. and Valentina K. Kirlian, Russian technicians]

 

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Energy around a spinning magnet

Now, your head or the thinking brain is quite another story. Thinking is the bane of society. Constructive thinking is normal and essential…but there hasn’t been a thinker yet that sorted out a personal problem by idle thoughts…EVER! Love is Divine Light…Love is a Harmony/Frequency/Vibe…Love is your Breath; Holy Name/Sweet…Love is a Taste; Nectar of the Gods. Once you are shown how to experience these four disciplines, your mind will be still.

You can’t experience Love and Hate at the same time. When your mind is still…your heart will love you. This love gives you wisdom and non-academic knowledge. You are able to see beyond the box you live in. Your problems seem menial, insignificant. You see the source of your problems as coming from your head with no basis in reality. Forgiveness is then hard to achieve and blame becomes the game.

If this synopsis seems a tad  simple, I have achieved my goal. Complexities are everywhere and hard to unravel. Life could be simpler. Life is good, it’s our routines that sometimes suck. With the world being blanketed with heartless academia, financial turmoil, unnecessary wars, apocalyptic death etc…where is our Oasis in amongst all this mayhem. People are led by the nose and follow blindly. If they own a house. I have to own a house. If they say don’t drink coffee. I won’t drink coffee. If they say go overseas on holidays. I will go too. They think that is what they want. Yet no matter how many material possessions we acquire…we still feel empty inside. Nothing will touch that void. People are sincerely fearful subconsciously as to their future. We have to live our lives regardless of the surroundings and do the best we can.

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I went to this website after listening to the radio. It was a breath of fresh air. This website…and it’s message rang true with me. It was a sentiment that I have held for decades. A sentiment that purports that ‘Till Death Do Us Part’ holds water. In the last two decades there has been a war on relationships and marriage. If you’re married for longer than 7 years..there’s something wrong with you. Marriage has been vilified and downgraded to zero. Women have lost their sense of direction as homes, clubs and pubs have become a battlefield. Men have been sitting on the sideline wondering what the hell!…What should I do? Everyone scared to commit to relating. Well lets dissect this notion for a minute. Why do marriages break up…(I consider marriage to mean relationships as well…firstly, that it’s heading towards marriage and secondly even if it isn’t, it’s still considered..legal) So that out of the way. When we as couples start to get familiar with each other, the opinions come out…contempt follows…then the bashing’s follow suite. The girls talk to the girls…compare notes and bitch about the men. This inevitably and potentially leads to divorce. It’s a course for disaster. One thing from the start for the girls to do is get rid of the ex-boyfriends slash boy friends lurking around your network. Be with the married couples. This way you have only one boy to contend with…HUBBY. He can be your favourite admirer. He is always there. You share everything. You accept their faults…and embrace the differences. I mean..if you both were the same…it would like being with yourself…unnecessary.  That’s gotta be a win-win situation for longevity. Anyway without further a-do, here is the article…
1. Happy Wives Club


11 thoughts on “LOVE

  1. Self Love

    “Self Love ~ The Greatest Love Of All!

    Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship – that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not just a self-esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to truly loving others. The Golden Rule tells us to "love your neighbour as you love yourself". You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though, and you will find that at its very center is the command to love yourself.

    The Mistaken Identity of Self Love: First, let us dispel some myths about what it means to love yourself. Self love is not about being arrogant or egotistical. It is not about comparing yourself to others to determine if you are good enough. It is not about always putting yourself first at the expense of others. It is not about always getting your way. It is not about always winning. It is not about “only looking after number one”.

    Will the Real Self Love Please Stand Up? To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are – the “light” parts and the “dark”, the “good” and the “bad” – while knowing that the real you is above the perceived dualities of the physical realm. It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honoring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what.

    What Do You Most Need to Hear? Take a moment to think of those things you most need to hear from others. Whether it be that they love you, admire you, accept you just as you are, appreciate you, forgive you or anything else. Take a piece of paper and write them down. Make sure to exhaust your list. You will find that what you most want to hear from others is what you most need to tell yourself. You should now have a list of positive affirmations tailor made for you. Repeat them every day, morning and night and include them in your creative visualization sessions. You will soon enjoy a sense of self love and inner peace that you never had before.

    You Can Only Give That Which You Have: It is an obvious statement that you cannot give something that you do not possess, yet so many people desperately love others without having or giving love to themselves. It is little wonder that in time their reserves of love are exhausted and their relationships falter. To give love, you must first have love. To have love, love yourself. Only then will you be able to truly love others for the pure joy of loving them. Give the love you wish to experience to yourself and you will find all your relationships transforming in miraculous ways.

    There is a Single Source of All Love: There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe – all knowing, all powerful, all loving, all creative and present everywhere at the same time. Through all of history this Single Consciousness has been revered by many names. God, the All, Brahman, the Universal Mind, to name but a few. It is the Source of All Love. It is Love. When you know and understand the truth that you are one with the One Source of All Love – that your very essence is love – then you will have discovered unconditional love for yourself and unlimited reserves for everyone and everything. You will know that to love yourself is to love the One Creator.

    The Benefits of Self Love: Loving yourself is a win-win for all. It provides you with an inner happiness, confidence and peace of mind that is not easily swayed by outside events and opinions. It enables you to make healthier choices and the best decisions across all areas of your life from your intimate relationships to your finances. It allows you to truly rejoice in other people’s good fortune rather than wondering “why, not me” or even resenting it. It enables you to be more genuinely loving towards others and to be of greater service to the world at large. Ultimately, the more you love yourself, the more everything and everyone you encounter benefits.

    “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Siddhartha Gautama Buddha

    In a nutshell, self love is a prerequisite to loving others. Your relationships are only as strong as the foundation of your self love. Release any belief you may hold that loving yourself is selfish or egotistical and replace it with the truth that your very essence is love, that unconditional self love is your birthright. When you know that you are one with the One Source of All Love, that you are connected to every thing and every one, you will know that you cannot possibly experience true love without first loving yourself. You will have discovered the truth that self love truly is the greatest love of all.

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  2. “So when your girlfriend is near you and you’re full of your own love…she feels loved” May be it’s so. But I wonder do you feel loved by your girlfriend or is it immaterial for you? You are full of your own love so you don’t need anyone’s love…. and it doesn’t matter what girlfriend is near you. You just let her feel the love of yourself…

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    • We do need each other, yes of course. That isn’t my point. There is a divinely greater love which towers over a lovers. This need lives in the domain of the physical world. Lovers cum and go, but divine love stays with you forever. Women think with their vaginas primarily, then say it’s the heart. Sex is felt absolutely, love isn’t. I don’t feel love when I’m showered with presents on birthdays/Christmas/whatever. I do when I’m having sex. SEX=LOVE and LOVE=SEX.

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  3. Love More Powerful than Sex, Study Claims
    Robert Roy Britt | May 31, 2005 07:52am ET

    Sex and romance may seem inextricably linked, but the human brain clearly distinguishes between the two, according to a new study. The upshot: Love is the more powerful emotion. The results of brain scans speak to longstanding questions of whether the pursuit of love and sex are different emotional endeavors or whether romance is just warmed over sexual arousal.
    “Our findings show that the brain areas activated when someone looks at a photo of their beloved only partially overlap with the brain regions associated with sexual arousal,” said Arthur Aron of the State University of New York-Stony Brook. “Sex and romantic love involve quite different brain systems.”

    The study, announced today, will be detailed in the July issue of the Journal of Neurophysiology. Left side, right side. The study was small, however, involving 17 young men and women, all of whom had recently fallen madly in love. They filled out questionnaires while their brains were hooked up to a functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) system.

    Romance seems to steep in parts of the brain that are rich in dopamine, a chemical known to affect emotions. These brain regions are also linked by other studies to the motivation for rewards.

    To our surprise, the activation regions associated with intense romantic love were mostly on the right side of the brain, while the activation regions associated with facial attractiveness were mostly on the left,” said Lucy Brown of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

    The study also revealed that as a romance matures, so does the mind.
    “We found several brain areas where the strength of neural activity changed with the length of the romance,” Brown said. “Everyone knows that relationships are dynamic over time, but we are beginning to track what happens in the brain as a love relationship matures.”

    Love wins.

    The processing of romantic feelings involves a “constellation of neural systems.” The researchers — neuroscientists, anthropologists and social psychologists — declare love the clear winner versus sex in terms of its power over the human mind.

    Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences,” said study member Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University. “It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive.”
    Fisher said the study might suggest some of the physiology of stalking behavior. Other studies suggest that up to 40 percent of people who are rejected in love slip into clinical depression, she said.

    Rejected men and women in societies around the world sometimes kill themselves or someone else,” Fisher said.
    Animals, too

    There are hints in the study that romance is not a uniquely human trait.
    Some of the changes seen with mature romances were in regions of the brain also associated with pair-bonding in prairie voles. Other studies have found that expressions of attraction in a female prairie vole are linked to a 50 percent hike in dopamine activity in the brain region that corresponds to the location where human romance is processed.
    “These and other data indicate that all mammals may feel attraction to specific partners, and that some of the same brain systems are involved,” Fisher said.

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  4. Gwyneth Paltrow and Huey Lewis – Cruisin’

    Baby let’s cruise, away from here
    Don’t be confused, the way is clear

    And if you want it, you got it forever
    This is not a one night stand, baby
    Yeah, so let the music take your mind
    Just release and you will find

    You’re gonna fly away, glad you’re goin my way
    I love it when we’re cruisin’ together
    Music is played for love, cruisin’ is made for love
    I love it when we’re cruisin’ together

    Baby tonite, belongs to us
    Everything right, do what you must
    And inch by inch, we grow closer and closer
    To every lil part of eachother
    Ooh baby yeah, so let the music take your mind
    Just release and you will find

    [Repeat **]

    Cruise with me baby, ooh..
    Yeah, ooh…

    Ooh baby let’s cruise, let’s float, let’s glide
    Ooh, let’s open up and go inside

    [Repeat * , **]

    You’re gonna fly away, glad you’re goin my way
    I love it when we’re cruisin’ together
    Music is played for love, cruisin’ is made for love
    I love it when I love it, I love it, I love it
    Ooh, cruise with me baby
    I love it when we’re cruisin together … till fade

    Crusin’

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  5. “Then must you speak
    Of one that loved not wisely but too well;
    Of one not easily jealous, but being wrought,
    Perplexed in the extreme; of one whose hand,
    Like the base Judean threw a pearl away
    Richer than all his tribe.”

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  6. Badfinger – Straight Up (full album) 1972

    Take It All 0:02 – Baby Blue 4:28 – Money/Flying 8:07
    I’d Die Babe 14:15 – Name Of The Game 16:50
    Suitcase 22:12 – Sweet Tuesday Morning 25:05
    Day After Day 27:35 – Sometimes 30:46
    Perfection 33:40 – It’s Over 38:50

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